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Adotion day itself - just cakes in the local cafe opposite the court. He didnt really understand what all the business at court was all about, and the various important bits of paper really dont mean much to a small child so now (a couple of years on) we don't celebrate adoption day at all - the important day for us was the day he came to us, so we have a card and a little present on the anniversary of that date.But this is definitely one where there is no "right way" it's just whatever feels right to you, and it may change as you move on. Just enjoy it.

Hi Dileas,Like g&t, we had cakes with our SW after we'd been to court. After that we took dd and ds to a local 'paint a pot' workshop - where they each painted a money box, and we all made a large plate with the date and our names on it. We didn't make a big fuss about the actual adoption day - both children had been told from the day of placement that we were their forever mummy and daddy, so we just said that the 'wise judge' had to give us a certificate!We also celebrate the date they were first placed with us as our 'family birthday' - we have a cake with candles, and something special to eat. We also have a family day out on the weekend nearest to the birthday; which we all really enjoy.AndreaWhatever you do, enjoy it; there's no 'proper' way to do it - it's what suits you and your family.

Garden, ginandtonic and andreajcThanks for your replies. I think at heart i would also celebrate the day he moved in but it is the day before my birthday so it gets a little confusing. Our lad is 6 and as this has been a contested adoption there has always been some level of doubt in his mind so it seems to be a big day for him tomorrow. He is telling the adults in his life and a few of his classmates even though he onloy found out on Friday. It seems cake and coffee after the court with the solicitor and social worker and then off for a meal as a family. We live in the sticks so our other choices are limited.He is hig as a kite tonight and i am not far behind him. Tomorrow can't come fast enough now.ThanksDileas

hellowe just went for a drink and cakes, we went to court in october, and then the children were christened a few weeks later, so we had the big celebration then. it is now 1 year on, and we celebrated the day as a family day - meal and a small gift each. We haven't overdone it. We also thought about celebrating the day they moved in, but it was 4 days before their birthday, and the day after hubby's, so all in all a bit too confusing.enjoy the day.

Hi Dilas, we had our sons adoption day ceremony in very recently and made a real day of it. He is only two but we feel his life story and memories are incredibly important. We talked about what was going to happen over a few days, invited all our close friends and immediate family (there were about 25 of us in court on the day) and I made him a special adoption day cake that was in the form of building blocks that spelled out his name. I took lots of photos, a friend took some video footage and we took some pretty pens and coloured paper cut outs with us to a buffet lunch afterwards where all his family and friends were able to make a coment for him to put in an adoption day memory book that i am planning to make for him. It was very imformal day (although both father and son did turn out in tuxedos) but I hope we made the day special for him, if not right now then in years to come he will be able to look back and see all the detail and who was there to 'claim him' and what they all felt about him and his special day. Have a fantastic day and amny congratulations -its such a special milestone - make the most of it.Mummybean xxx

I guess there is no "properly". It will depend on how old "the Boy" is and what he understands or cares about it.For us all (inc dd and ds) moving in day had far more significance and is celebrated and remembered privately by us as a family