Hi there - I'd be really grateful if anyone could share with me any experiences of direct contact with birth parents.
I'm considering adopting a baby and there is planned yearly direct contact with birth mum. I'm not sure what I think about this. On one hand I can see that it could be really beneficial for all involved. The child would grow up knowing their birth mum, would know that they were wanted but could not be cared for by her and could have their questions about her answered directly, hopefully being good for them long term.
On the other hand I worry that this could be distressing for birth mum, could potentially be quite confusing/upsetting for the child if the meetings were very emotional and could be a continual source of destabilisation in all our lives.
Does anyone have any experiences of this, positive or negative they could share to help me understand the potential benefits/pitfalls better?
Many thanks.