Like autism, FASD is a spectrum and each child will be impacted differently. There was an APPG report a few years ago which said that a majority of looked after children and adoptees had been impacted by alcohol abuse in utero. So I think to a great extent it’s almost a given. Many years ago I recall ticking the No box to autism - well, two out of my three are autistic and actually having an formal diagnosis can make life easier than managing a woolly albeit very real attachment difficulties scenario. Though it was a hard fought battle against ignorant professionals to get those diagnoses.
Having said that, it will undoubtedly impact your birth child. And your life will change for sure. Any child with additional needs will complicate life and it can be all encompassing.
There is light at the end of an often very long tunnel but be prepared. It’s hard work.
My three are 17, 18 and 21. We have two dxs of autism, one ADHD, one of anxiety and depression collectively but one’s graduated, one’s aiming for uni and one has a different path to follow.
It’s been a journey but it’s got easier as they got older.
Choose your schools carefully. Think carefully about different schools - 3 in different schools worked best here. Be prepared to fight.
I’ve no regrets at all but, honestly, it’s been hard work.
Deep breaths and good luck x