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Johanna
September 27, 2018 11:35
Recently our Littly turned 18. It has been a complex and difficult journey to get to this stage but fortunately we have all made it. We have regular contact with her older sister who has children and Littly has a 1 yr old herself. We have struggled to get diagnoses and it is on going. We did get a thorough Ed Psych report however, and that has helped. We have had very traumatic times in early teenage years ..... the police have been far more helpful than SWs. We have gone through complaints and our own.memtal and physical health has been fragile at times through the bombardment of trauma due to their early life experiences of neglect domestic violence, use of drugs and alcohol and genetic predispositions. I think every child teparented after these experiences should have the automatic right to additional services. We had SWs saying that there were no problems but as we are not miracle workers we knew there were as we knew the children. Anyway we have reached adulthood with them. We are in very close contact with both I am not saying that everything is rosy. They are needy and both will require support in the community but both are doing far better in my opinion than perhaps could be expected We are pleased with them and how they have turned out. We support their children and hopefully a cycle will be broken. Thank you everyone on the boards who have supported us through the tough times and shared experiences and wisdom. When others did not understand,you did. Johanna xx
Serrakunda
September 27, 2018 12:12
yay indeed !!!!!!
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Larsti
September 27, 2018 12:39
Wonderful Johanna! Lovely post and Amen to the cycle being broken. All your love and hard work has borne fruit. Larsti x
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safia
September 27, 2018 15:03
Congratulations and keep up the good work!
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Pear Tree
September 27, 2018 16:16
Hurray!
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Milly
September 27, 2018 19:04
Congratulations!
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createamum
September 27, 2018 19:45
It sounds like you have weathered the storms and come out the other side a stronger family, well done to you all.
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Earendil
September 27, 2018 20:44
Yay indeed Hugs
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Blue_bell
September 27, 2018 21:42
A huge milestone for all of you, congratulations!! We are just at the beginning of our journey and I hope we can be just as successful. Thank you, because we get to benefit from the wisdom of all of you that have gone before us and made the way a little easier in terms of educating the professionals, your experience, advise and support.
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steps
September 28, 2018 08:20
lovely to hear from you and to celebrate your daughters coming of age! can i thank you for all the insights,encouragements and thoughful reflective posts you have shared that have encouraged me and given me strength. your tenacity in keeping going has been amazing you mention that your health has been affected over the years and i can identify with that. children should come with a package of support but i also think that there should be a package of support for parents. i was thinking of maybe membership of a local gym, 4 massages a year, a token for 1 night a year in a hotel! looking back over our 26 years of parenting our 4 sons its been our circle of friends, our decision to do some exercise each week -even if one of us ended up with all 4 for a couple of hours and our faith and sense of humour that has got us through! on behalf of your girls ,your grandchildren ,the generations to come and those you have supported on the boards can i say thankyou and hope you will continue to share but also have time to relax more !
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clr1
September 28, 2018 10:18
Thank you. My AD is about to turn 14 and home life is becoming turbulent again. It is always good to hear from people who have successfully weathered the storm and emerged at the other end as a functioning family.
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Fruitcake
September 28, 2018 15:16
Great news, Johanna. It is quite a milestone, 18. I still have two below this age and while I do not wish their teenage years away (they are good children with none of the difficulties of their older brother) I am aware that when the youngest reaches 18 we will be breathing a sigh of relief. We have recently suffered a brush with the "Professionals" because of the risk our older son is presumed to pose (if only they had cared this much about HIM when HE was under 18!). It has been tedious and stressful with no useful outcome. As a friend of mine said when her difficult young man reached age 18, "he still has difficulties but I won't be blamed for them any more". In some ways I can't wait ⦠Congratulations to your daughter on reaching her majority and to you her parents for all the care and love that has enabled her to reach this point successfully within your family.
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Sivier
September 28, 2018 15:20
Amazing, what inspiring parenting. You have weathered so much, as have of course your children. Warmest wishes to you all.
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Rosie100
October 1, 2018 12:33
Great new!. All your perseverance and love has helped you get to this point.
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mayan49
October 1, 2018 15:40
Hi Johanna - many congratulations - gosh how the years have flown by since your beautiful girl was such a tiny dot when we saw you all. Whilst there remain challenges no doubt - celebrating such an important milestone of 18 is even more of an achievement and a testament to your DH and your monumental resilience. I hope you both will be able to find some healing time for yourselves as shouldering the load does exact a price along the way. Hoping you all had a lovely time celebrating. I certainly felt some of the burden lighten in the days after my youngest hit 18 so I can certainly relate to Fruitcake's friend's comment - even if it took another ten years to independence for her and still many issues at nearly 30. Really happy for you all and hope that you and your dh can celebrate your efforts in those quiet moments when you reflect on the joys and tears that have brought you so far. Love and strength to you both Mxx
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