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We have had a lot of emotions to cope with as a family over the last weekOur former foster daughter, the birth mother of our 2 girls aged 15 and 9, has been round and very much in contact.We have seen Teen Miss taking over her old role at times of ''looking after mum'' and also dealing with her own complex feelings. She is pregnant and knows her relationship with her birth mother is never going to be as it was - we talked carefully about this before the direct contact.Little Miss has become more aware of her past; she has though seemed to internalise it well and has made several perceptive comments. She has wanted to be physically close to her birth mother (does not remember living with her) yet when she is by herslf with us, she wants all the cuddles she can get and it does help that for the last year or so ( we have been a family for well over 7 years) Little Miss has been coming up to us spontaneously and saying that she loves us;( Oh I Do love you!). Teen Miss tends to say this ( a quick ''love you'')when she has had a present or wants a present.We are pleased though that Teen Miss is talking openly and honestly about her feelings around her birth mother. She has insights into her behaviours. In an odd way, her pregnancy is protecting her - she has her boyfriend and his family in her life too and this is her focus. It all seems slightly unreal. Johanna