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Hi, I am a single adopter. I have 2 adopted children adopted through different agencies. My children were 13 months and 18 months when place. I think most agencies are supportive of single adopter now. Fizzpop

The agency experience will only be as good as the sw doing the assessment. The fact that you are single is not a problem, I wonder why are you keen to adopt a very young child?

Have pm'd you

I used my local authority. I waited a long, long time but think was primarily due to my social worker, as suggested above. It was also over 9 years ago. Can really understand your desire for a young child, but sometimes/often problems don't appear until children are older. Good luck - adopting a child is over-whelming and all-consuming, and at times incredibly difficult but I wouldn't change my decision.

Thanks for all the responses! If anyone knows of any London meetups for single people, I'd be really keen to talk to anyone about their experiences.

I am a single adopter (well a pre adopter if that's a thing!) just started stage 2 with a VA. Happy to chat if you'd like to pm me xx

Hi Merry, What do you class as a very young child? If you want a newborn then you can opt for foster to adopt. My LO was 11 months when placed. I waited 1 month to be matched. 1 month when my LO came home. I adopted through LA

I'm a single adopter and my son was 8 months old when he came to me. As I'd read somewhere that adopting a baby is not that common, I'd chosen not to go through the foster to adopt route and I wasn't desperate for a baby as some people seem to be I was approved for 0 to 5 year old and totally assumed I'd get an older child - and I got a baby! I would advise to be open minded and be prepared to consider as wide a range of children as possible. And be prepared to be informed and have your mind changed during the approval process. I'm not in London I'm afraid but my social worker put me in touch with some local single adopters who I've stayed in touch with so hopefully yours will be able to do that. It's definitely useful to get the single adopter perspective.

We Are Family have single adopters groups meeting in North and South London https://wearefamilyadoption.org.uk/our-activities

We are family’s single adopters group is for single approved Adopters already placed or matched with a child/children. I’m a single adopter and I’ve spoken to several other single people going through the process. I’m happy to chat to you. Send me a private message to set something up.

I’ve adopted twice through a VA as a single adopter. Both children were under 2 at placement. There’s also a single adopters group on fb

I’ve adopted twice through a VA as a single adopter. Both children were under 2 at placement. There’s also a single adopters group on fb

Hi Merry I'm a fellow single adopter, in South London. My LA were really receptive to me as a single adopter who is looking to adopt a baby as young as possible - I was approved about four weeks ago, for adoption and for early permanence. In some ways, I think I've had a slightly easier time during the assessment process than some of the people I've met during the training - no difficulties in negotiating parenting styles at least! Will PM you too