Very much on the nursery slopes in terms of adoption, but we would value people’s thoughts on the posting of photographs of adopted children, especially children very new to the home, on social media. I grew up in the care system, my partner did not, but we share a dismay that alongside helpful and informative words that might well support fellow adopters are sometimes photos that feel intimate eg a child asleep after a traumatic experience, a child retreating after a show of temper. Perhaps it is inevitable that I feel for the child in this situation and their lack of control over such things being posted when so much control has been taken away from them already but I am concerned that my feelings about this show I am too over-sensitive to adopt. I would be truly grateful for any thoughts on this.
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How strange … I replied, then the post and my response disappeared.. now a slightly different post!
I think you said in your first post that the pictures were posted on private pages so presumably not open to all and sundry?
I was extremely careful about any pictures when my children were small - though social media wasn’t such a big thing then anyway. I can’t actually recall any adopters I know posting pictures anywhere of their child post meltdown or post traumatic event, even in private. Words, yes, but pictures no.
On the other hand I can understand why adopters want to post happy pictures of their longed for family. No child, birth or adopted, has much control over that when they’re young. There will come a time when children are older when they ban you posting pictures but by that time they’re usually on social media themselves.
In short, I wouldn’t be comfortable seeing post meltdown pictures but in 20 years I’ve never seen one anyway.
Follow your heart and your own instincts … you can’t control/change other people’s behaviour (and I include a child’s), all you can do is manage your response to it.
good luck
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