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Would we be able to adopt?

MarieMaso23 October 26, 2022 15:54

Hi, I’m new to this forum so hopefully this is in the right thread!

My husband and I feel ready to add to our family, we’ve been together 8 years and can’t have our own children but would love to adopt and give a loving home to a child. We’re just concerned if we would even be able to adopt!

We’re 26 and 28 years old, no convictions, no children of our own but I do have a past with mental health conditions and medications. I used to be on anti-psychotics and antidepressants as I went through a very tough time and was diagnosed with BPD. I am concerned this would ruin our chances alongside my husband having being wrongfully arrested also in the past but was obviously never charged! Would either of these ruin our chances or is there any criteria for adopting that I should know of? I know on the website it say’s disabilities and health conditions don’t automatically rule you out but I am concerned my past would.

This would utterly break my heart but I’d rather we knew now before going into the process with hope

Safia October 27, 2022 20:29

It wouldn’t automatically rule you out but would obviously be something they’d want to look into thoroughly. What happened at the time - what were the precipitating factors - what treatment you had and how you have been since then and are now. How well you understand the diagnosis and what it means for you. With your husband again they’d want to know what happened and what he’d learned from it. Don’t forget your experiences make you richer and stronger so it’s important for you to think through yourself what you bring that others don’t and how you can use your experience for the better. Another aspect of course is that adoption - especially as children get older - brings a huge additional layer of stress and you need to think carefully about how that may impact you and how / whether you feel you could cope. The assessment process is not a pass or fail but is meant to be an opportunity for you all to explore together whether adoption is right for you

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