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CatLady1 April 25, 2019 20:59

Just curious, as an adoptive grandparent who got a.lot from the previous forum, whether this is going to work. It seems as though everyone has disappeared...

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CatLady1 April 25, 2019 21:02

Agggh! What's happened to my.old user name? Why is my 'community name' being used?.Not sure I can be doing with this.

Cat Lady

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April 25, 2019 21:26

If you want to change your name that appears on here... go to Adoption UK > My profile above, then click 'edit'. The name you choose there should be the one that appears on the forum. Good luck!

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CatLady1 April 25, 2019 21:46

I tried that and it showed my user name as Cat Lady. That's what I've always been on the forum and I assumed it would continue.. I only a community name because I had to.. and now it's taken over! I'm fairly IT savvy but not enjoying this very much.

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Safia April 25, 2019 21:51

Don’t worry it’s not a problem of being IT savvy - it’s s problem with moving the goal posts in a confusing way - took me a while to work it all out - there’s hardly any names I recognise so unless there’s lots of new users it’s probably happened to lots of us. I think it’s going to take a while to work out who everybody is!

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CatLady1 April 25, 2019 22:52

Thanks Safia. Yes.. some detective work needed. I too.wondered at all the names I didnt recognise. Upwards and onwards!!

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onlineteamAUK April 26, 2019 12:31

HI Lizlee,

Apologies for the confusion and for any inconvenience caused.
Your username is for logging into the Adoption UK community and the Profile name is for posting on the Forum. You can switch/edit these if you like.

Change your username:

If you login and navigate to the menu in the top right hand corner next to the Help button,

Click the small grey triangle to reveal the options. Choose the change username field, input the change and click save.

To change profile details:

To change your forum profile name click on the Adoption UK community tab at the top of the page and choose the my profile section from the drop down menu.

Then click the edit button on the following page,

change your name in the Community name field and then click submit at the bottom of the page.

To change your profile picture, follow the same steps under change profile details and once you've clicked edit, scroll to the bottom of the page and you will find the profile picture options. Upload a new picture by clicking Choose files.

Once you have chosen/uploaded your picture, click submit to save.

Hope this helps

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Best wishes, Online Team AUK

CatLady1 April 27, 2019 14:37

Thank you for your message auk - I have tried... But when I log in, the banner at the top does not look like the one you posted. I don’t get a ‘help’ button, just a little rectangle with three horizontal lines across it. When I click on this, it brings up an option to go to Cat Lady (my user name). Then there is a drop down menu which gives me the options to change my user name and change my password, but does not give the option for changing my community name. In fact, community name is not mentioned at all. A couple of days ago, Beth at auk emailed me and kindly offered to change my user name. I agreed to this and explained what I would like. Hopefully that will work. Thanks for your help.

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CatLady1 April 27, 2019 14:39

Ps... there is no picture change option on that menu either. I wonder if it is because I am using iPad and smartphone rather than conventional laptop.. ?

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flounders May 2, 2019 18:35

Catlady1 - Just found this forum, I don't remember seeing it on the old system. I'm a struggling granny so I'm hoping to use it...

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Safia May 2, 2019 21:58

Hi Flounders - there were several grandparent forums / posts on the old forums catering for different types of grandparent but they didn't get used much so might not have come up much on posted today. I'm a granny because my birth kids are parents - then there's those whose adopted kids are parents ( not always such happy stories) - and then those whose birth kids have adopted. Which sort are you if you don't mind me asking?

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CatLady1 May 3, 2019 13:02

Hi Flounders, I hope you find the forum helpful. I'm sure we'll get over all the glitches in time. I'm a Granny whose daughter and son in law adopted, so really in should be posting in the other grandparents thread but that has only just appeared! I did post a couple of times in the grandparents section on the old forum but as Safia said, very few used it. I post on the G thread (now G2) and was a.regular poster on the old Adoptive Revolutionary Front which was led by Pear Tree..(haven't seen her on the new forum yet) and that thread has now been archived.

I've found people on here really helpful and supportive - the forum has been a really.good resource for our family.. I pass on info to my daughter, who has her hands more than full with little Kitcat! Hope to see you on here again. Take care. CL

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flounders May 3, 2019 18:29

Hi Catlady and Safia,

I haven't posted or used the site much for about 10 years.... things got really bad, and I found reading other peoples' similar tales just seemed to make it worse.

I'm a granny because my adopted son has two small children. We thought things were going reasonably well but it's all blown up over the last couple of months, been extremely unpleasant. Son and his partner seem to be acting out a Jeremy Kyle show. Now everyone is staying with us in our fairly small house. Much as I love them all I'm desperate for a little space. Everyone is very very needy, and apparently the only people who can/will get up at 5.30 with the babes are granny and grandad.

Thank you for replying


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CatLady1 May 5, 2019 10:25

Flounders, I'm afraid I don't have any experience to share with you, but it does sound like you're having a really difficult time. Hopefully someone will be along soon who has been through similar.. it is very quiet on here now the forum has changed. Hope things get better for you before long xx

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Safia May 6, 2019 17:29

Flounders one thing you could do is look in the archived posts - there was a thread fairly recently with people in a similar position to you adding their stories - probably people you would know from before - unfortunately they don’t seem to be here anymore. Also we can no longer pm people which is how people were able to share advice and experience without revealing confidential information. Another thing you could try is the potato group which is for parents of older traumatised teens and young adults and a lot of the old members are there. I know there are a lot of people in the same or similar circumstances and have had to make difficult decisions. Good luck - I hope you find somebody

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