Not all of these questions are relevant for each age group or situation. However, they are a good starting point.
GENERAL
- What do they like?
- What are they like?
- What is their understanding of adoption?
- What work has been done to prepare them for adoption?
- How do they feel about it?
- What are their thoughts and feelings on birth family?
- How are they progressing in FC? How do they feel about animals? How are they at school?
- What are they like with other children?
IF SIBLINGS
- how do they get on together?
- sibling rivalry?attention seeking behaviours?
- one child parenting the other?
- have they been assessed for a trauma bond?
ROUTINE
- Can they dress / undress themselves?
- What boundaries have been set – reward systems / time in / thinking step?
- What is their daily routine?
FOOD
- Are they good or fussy eaters? Overeating?
- Does it take a long time for them to eat a meal?
- What are their favourite foods?
- Is there anything they don’t like?
- Do they have any allergies - food?
- How often do they eat and how much?
- What do they usually drink?
- What food do they usually eat?
BATHTIME
- Do they like being in the bath or is it a stressful time for them?
- Do they like brushing their teeth?
- Do they need help with this?
- Do they like having their hair brushed, washed, dried?
- Hairbrush or comb?
- How do you wash their hair and what with?
- What shampoo and bubble bath do they have?
- When and how often do they have a bath, morning or evening?
- Do you use body lotion on them?
SLEEP
- Do they have problems sleeping if something new has happened?
- Do they have any other comforters either just at night or during the day too?
- Do they need a nightlight on?
- Do they sleep soundly or does the slightest thing wake them?
- How are they sleeping?
- How do you soothe them back to sleep during the night if they wake up?
- How do you deal with nightmares / monsters under the bed?
- s there any music used to help them sleep?
- What is their sleep routine (time, stories, bath etc?)
BEHAVIOUR
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Do they have any (rational or irrational) fears, e.g. flies, spiders, loud noises, water, smells, places, activities, beards, people with glasses, anything unusual?
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Do they have any tantrums and what triggers them?
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How long to they last? Do they react to pain / distress of others / you when they are with you?
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How can you tell when they are angry or scared?
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How can you tell when they are hungry or tired?
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How do they cope with pain, do they have an overly high or low pain threshold?
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How do they show affection?
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Are they cuddly or do they push you away?
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How easily are they calmed?
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How would you describe their behaviour and personality? (Calm, placid, fussy etc)
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If they have any contact with the birth family, how does it affect them? siblings
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Is there any thing that triggers a particular feeling, e.g. anger, happiness, fright, distress?
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Is there anything that especially delights them, gets them excited?
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What do they use to comfort themselves, e.g. blanket / dummy / rag / toy?
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What do you do to comfort them, e.g. cuddle / stroke / hold them in a particular way?
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What is their general outlook on life?
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What is their 'quiet space' / sanctuary?
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What do they understand about their safety, e.g. not playing with matches, knowing how to dial 999
PRODUCTS
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What perfumes / after shave etc do the FC wear?
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What soap powder / conditioner / tumble dryer additives do you use?
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Which baby products / toiletries do you use?
MEDICAL
- Are there any upcoming appointments?
- Do they go to the dentist regularly and do they like this?
- Do they have any allergies to products, e.g. washing powder, plasters, etc.?
- Do they have any special needs?
- Do they have dry skin / eczema?
- What products do you use?
- Are these over-the-counter or prescription?
- Has there been any grief work done with them?
- Have they had any childhood illnesses, e.g chicken pox, glue ear, stick eyes, etc?
- How much do they weigh?
- What are their heights now?
- What do you do when they are feeling unwell?
- What is planned over the continued review of any medical conditions?
- What was their head circumference at birth and now? These give a good indication of likely future growth.
- When are their next medical / dental / opticians appointments?
- Are they up to date?
- When was their last dental appointment?
DEVELOPMENT
- Do they have any particular talents and attributes?
- How do they compare in development milestones to a typical child of their age?
- How mobile are they?
- What has their physical development been like, e.g. centile charts (WHO)?
EDUCATION
- Can they speak / read / write / draw?
- Can we see any of the things they bring home from school?
- Do they have a best friend at school / nursery?
- Do they have any friends away from nursery/school that they may miss?
- Do they have any specific skills or attributes, e.g. fantastic dancer?
- What was their last report like?
SOCIAL
- Are they used to playing with / having other children around?
- Do they enjoy the company of adults or children more?
- Do they get upset or anxious by strangers?
- Do they have stranger fear?
- Do they lack stranger awareness?
- Do they have difficulty with hugs, eye contact, close proximity?
- Do they like their / others birthday and Christmas and parties?
- Do they play well with friends – are they leaders or followers?
- How are they with new people?
- Which adults are they closest to?
ANIMALS
- Are there any animals they are frightened of?
- Are they used to any pets or animals?
- Did the birth family have pets?
- Do they like cats / dogs / birds / farm animals?
- Do you have pets?
- How do they behave around pets or other people's animals?
ACTIVITIES
- Can and do they swim?
- Do they like dancing and singing?
- Do they like playing in the garden, even on dull days?
- Do they like sports and outdoor activities?
- Do they like travelling in the car – are they good passengers?
- Do they like walking?
- Do they suffer from travel sickness?
- Have they been long distances in a car?
- Have you taken them abroad on holiday? If so, where? (Passport?)
- Have you taken them on holiday in this country? If so, where?
- Is there any particular equipment you take with you when going out with them? Seating arrangements, e.g. at table, in cars, at restaurants What are their favourite indoor / outdoor games?
- What are their favourite places to go?
- What are their favourite smells, e.g. seaside or flowers
- What are their favourite songs?
- What are their hobbies and interests?
- What child seats are in the car?
- What sounds / noises do they like to hear?
- Where do they most like to go? (farm, park, swimming etc)?
CLOTHING
- Are there any clothes that they dislike wearing?
- Are there any clothes they particularly like / favourites?
- Do they have a good range of seasonal clothing to bring with them?
- What are their clothing sizes?
- What clothing do they have?
- What is their shoe size?
TOYS / BOOKS, ETC
- Do they have any favourite toys / books?
- Do they have any music / TV / film favourites?
- Is there a particular theme to the toys / books / TV they like the most?
POSSESSIONS
- Is there anything that they really like that they wont be bringing with them?
- What clothing / toys / bedding / books / CDs / DVDs / photos / documents / other possessions will they be bringing with them?
- Who gave them which possessions, e.g. birth family, other FC, etc?
- Which are significant or most precious and why?
GENERAL
- Are there any photos we could take with us?
- Where are all their legal papers / health records / personal papers / school or nursery reports / old birthday cards / old photos etc?
- Will you be able to provide us with photos during their stay at the FC placement?
FUTURE
- Do they think that there will be a lot of problems when they move on?
- Do they understand about adoption?
- Do they understand about their past and future? If so, how much have they been told?
- Do they understand what has happened to birth mother and father?
- Is there anything that you would like to know about us / need from us?
- What and who do you think they will miss when they move on?
- When can we give them something of ours, item of clothing or a toy for them to get used to?