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Anxiety about Going back to work?

Chels and jay July 9, 2021 00:06

Our beautiful boy has been living with us for just over 6 months we have just begun our court application. As everyone with children know just how expensive they are and how crappy adoption leave pay is. So I have made the decision to start kit (keep in touch) days at work. I had completed a couple and they went fine, however today it was different. Our little man was having a fun filled day with his daddy (my husband) while I went to work. After a couple of hours I felt the sudden urge to want to hold him and began to panic because I couldn’t hold him or smell his little sent. To the point I couldn’t stop crying and had to just leave work. I honestly don’t know where this came from but I am now having major anxiety about returning full time in September.

My question is has anyone else experienced this? Also how did you deal with it?

Safia July 10, 2021 08:51

How old is your son? Sounds like you are really going to miss him and doubting your decision to return. This is really common for first time mums - adopters or not - as the decision is made before they have their child and really know how they will feel. Do you need to return in September? Could you take a year out or negotiate part time? Is your husband going to be looking after your child or was this just for the one day? If not you need to make sure you are really comfortable with the arrangements and your son will be happy there. If he’s at school maybe you could work as close to school hours as possible. September still gives you time to think about things and make changes

chestnuttree July 10, 2021 13:34

You will find quite a few articles about parental separation anxiety on the net, you are not alone. Probably having had a tougher time becoming a parent and an ongoing pandemic make things even harder.

There is some advise in the link. On a positive note, you clearly have a strong bond with your son, which is great.

https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/blog/2017/08/10/parental-separation-anxiety

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