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Just another statistic

December 25, 2021 14:04

We've become another statistic. Life seemed to be going so well - started college, got a part time job she loved, started to make friends for the first time. Living the dream. Within 3 months she's met birth brother (20) and moved in with him, given up her job and is on the verge of being thrown out of college. In the last week I've spent a night in A&E and has the police out hunting for her. After a request to post adoption support in early November, a first response request 2 weeks ago and no fewer than 3 urgent safeguarding requests from different organisations (all ignored), intervention from my MP (3x) and intervention from the Children's Commission (also 3x), I finally got a meeting with post adoption and social services 5 days after she had gone.

Serrakunda27 December 26, 2021 13:15

That sounds so hard, absolutely disgraceful that it took all that to get a response from SWs.

Hopefully you will get some support in now. She is still very young, young enough for this to be a blip on her road through life.

Take care x

December 26, 2021 17:42

Thanks. It came completely out of the blue. We had been really close and I would have said we had a great relationship but she's contacted brother and hooked up with a group of friends who spend their days hanging around the city centre and I feel like I don't know her. No recriminations, no nagging and no contact at all since I took her stuff over to her.

Serrakunda27 December 27, 2021 14:57

Absolutely not minimising what is happening, clearly serious stuff going on here, but she is still young, the teenage years are so hard for them, particularly if they make contact with birth family.

All is not lost, you are still there for her, sometimes you have to let them go to make their own mistakes. You are the constant in her life, hopefully in time she will realise that and return to you - older, wiser, maybe not quite the girl she was but still your daughter

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