bluebird
June 24, 2019 21:08
Hi all,
Just wondering if any adopters have gone through a divorce and how this has affected the children.
My husband and l are struggling and sadly we are not seeing a way forward for us.
Grateful if anyone could share a similar experience.
Thank you!!
Jingle bells
June 26, 2019 10:14
You don't say how old the children are, hopefully you can both sit down and explain The situation.in an age appropriate way.
reassure the children that it is not their fault,
its potentially another loss in their life, and that could reignite a whole lot of emotions.
if you manage the situation well, the children won't see it as rejection
but the positives are
living in a happier household as they will have picked up on the vibes
not having 2 adults to play off against each other
hopefully, in the long term, everyone will be happier and that will have a positive impact on everyone's lives
bluebird
June 27, 2019 21:36
Thank you very much Mojo & Safia. Our boy is only 5 - it breaks my heart to think he is going to have another loss in his life :-(
I'll contact the Adoption Uk team for some support.
Deb
February 1, 2020 07:50
It was incredibly hard for us all my children had only been with us for two short years before their world was ripped apart yet again. This was 12 years ago now and we've had many tears along the way,I'll never forget my youngest at 6 sobbing her heart out on my knee saying she doesn't want daddy to leave.
He gave them 2 short years of knowing how a family unit should be before he took that away from them,my heart couldn't forgive so that was that. It hasn't been easy for any of us and he went on to remarry and have his own birth child,but if possible you need to try and stay on friendly terms with each other even if it's just for show and that will help your children enormously.