July 12, 2020 20:24
Havenât posted for years but big boy is now almost 20 and has now spoken about me finding out about him meeting BM. I know she will want to do this so am sure it will at some point take place. Iâm happy for him to do this ,BM life if very different from when he was born I know it is not a chaotic life style anymore plus she has other children that were able to stay with her. Im scared though and selfishly for me ð, Iâm scared but not sure about what exactly- about him seeing her as mum , him having a fantastic relationship with her( and that makes me feel so bad as of course that is what he would want so I should be pleased), about losing the family we have!! Of course I would never say this to him and he finds it easy to talk to me about it which I wouldnât want to change but I do feel a sadness. Not looking for answers but just needed to say How I am feeling.
July 12, 2020 21:03
I think its natural to be apprehensive about it. Simba is 16 next week and we have talked about it but he's not ready yet. I'm a bit relieved to be honest. Although I have no great worries about them meeting, it will have an impact on him in some way. All we can do is what you are doing, be supportive to them, and run here to share your fears. Its a good sign though that he talks to you about it, I think that says a lot about your relationship and how much he values you and trusts you. He won,t give that up lightly. Id be more worried if he was doing it behind your back.