don’t go quietly!
if I was in your position
Even though you have had a meeting and discussed giving up, i would now put it in writing to my social worker confirming that I am heartbroken to have made the decision to give up, but as your adoption team/ family finding team don’t deem me suitable for any matches in the past ? years, You are disappointed that no one has given you feedback on to why you are not suitable,
in your letter state your worker has advised that you ask for an appointment To return to panel to be deregistered. State that you want a panel at the earliest panel.
attend the panel, they approved you , let them know personally how you’ve been treated.
Questions need to be asked, and I bet people in senior positions will not know that you have been available but nothing has been forthcoming.
I would copy into the email .....
The senior of the adoption team, the senior of children services, the chief executive of your council and the chair person of you panel,
and anyone else in the managerial tier that is relevant to children services.
it sounds like you have made up your mind and need closure in order to move your life forward,