Me and my wife adopted a gorgeous little boy 18 months ago. He had his first birthday a week after we got him. Between us we are a great team, I work full time ,she has our little boy all day and | take over when I finish work and she makes our evening meal. On a weekend my wife has a few cleaning jobs to bring in a few extra pennies and I take over with the childcare. By chance my sister-in-law lives 5 doors down from us. She is on her own with 3 kids. Eldest 12, then 10 then 4. We thought this would be a great little set up for our little boy, 3 cousins round the corner to play with, an auntie to love him, but things have turned sour, very sour ! My wife and her have had a tempestuous relationship over the years but a few months ago they had a bust up which I dont think will ever be resolved. Worse is ,shes turned her children against us so our little boy hasnt seen his cousins for months ! We have our house up for sale at the moment so we wont be seeing much of her family anyway soon but its hurt my wife that she has involved the kids. Now my family. I moved away from home 14 yrs ago so all my family live 40 miles away. None of them are regular visitors, I can count the number 0f visits through the years on one hand to be honest, both my parents have passed away so theres no grandparents on my side. Two of my nieces have small children who I hope will grow up with my son and be lifelong friends. My point is this, Im worried our little boy will grow up with thin family ties. I look back at my childhood and I had sisters, aunties, uncles, cousins it really seemed perfect, Im comparing my childhood to his ! We have no plans to adopt again so he will be an only child, this worries me enough without the other concerns I have. On the other hand I think " whats so good about family anyway ?". I have two sisters that have fell out, as Ive said my wife is in a similar situation, and my family cant jump on a bus and pay me a visit, so this is family is it ?? Our child does have siblings relating to his birth parents, so maybe in the future he will meet up with some of them ( 1 half brother and 2 half sisters). My wife still has her mam so he does have a Nana and we have a few good quality close friends.So, is a large family realy that important ? Any advice would be appreciated.