In the tradition of the online communities that are created all over the world, I thought that we should re-introduce ourselves for those who may not know us, you can also complete your profiles to include this information too. Please - share only what you feel comfortable with... and obviously only personal information you feel does not put you in a position of risk! I have been away from the forums for a few years, mainly due to life taking over, so here goes with me:
Myself and my husband T - together for 21 years, married on 10th May 2019 (I know, these damned laws we have!)
3 sons - all adopted. F - just turned 21, living partially independently, and working (at mo!), B, turns 20 next month, living with GF and parents and working (albeit only recently). Both placed together in 2007, and we have had our ups and downs, including potential ARND/FASD, Statements and EHCPs, NEET, brushes with the law/courts, BF contact via social media and no doubt more to come, and then onto our little angel J - 12, and placed 5 years ago. Wouldn't have life without him, however, it has been a very very intense and hard, tiring road. Just received an ARND/FASD diagnosis, doesn't sleep without meds, and needs specific medication for daytimes too. Intelligent and uses lots of big words that he understands, and will be amazing at whatever he decides to do, however, has massive issues with CPV etc which can often be difficult to deal with.
I was a huge online forum user in the early days, and went under the username of Dishy. I have searched the archives... oh my.... #cringe
As you know, I work for Adoption UK, and have done for just near on 5 years. I was a stay at home Dad for the older boys before that, we swapped roles when J came along, and T was a career railway man and project manager.
- Dream(s) for future
Nothing really interesting unless its adoption related... Seems to have taken over my life. I guess, all I want is for my sons to live as independently as they can, and to be successful as possible given their early years.
In an ideal world I would like to see system changes in during the childhood of J, but I think that it is unlikely it will be perfect by the time he reaches 18. I hoped that for my older sons too.
A really supportive adoption community, not just with adoptive parents, but also with adoptees and birth parents, and to be able to extend this to SGO/Kinship families.
I hope you will join me with a similar comment, albeit I know you may not have the time to post such a long winded intro!