June 11, 2019 21:54
Just needed somewhere to vent my thoughts and anxiety.
We we had our initial link meeting yesterday with 4 social workers- ours and prospective little ones as well as family finder.
they said leave it 48 hours to make up our mind (didn’t need that long!) and should hear tomorrow if we are a match. We have expressed our views today and our social worker will ‘ be in touch’
90% of us thinks all went well but there’s always that nagging doubt.
I HATE the waiting about that comes after approval- I never anticipated this and the levels of anxiety it causes. For us it’s our whole life but for them it’s just another case... i wondered if anyone else can relate??
June 12, 2019 13:07
Of course this is our second time adopting and it is hard. The only advise I would give is to try take ur mind of it as much as possible are you the only family they are looking at. And remind urself it will happen and when it does its amazing we just been linked to our second child matching panel in four weeks and I can tell you it's just as hard the second time round but i look at my son and the soon to be other son and grateful and wouldn't have it any other way. Good luck with everything
July 2, 2019 10:30
Hi. I am a single prospective adopter for the past 5 years and over that period I have been matched with about 3 children. The last one was in January-February of this year and I was so close to Panel this time and it fell through. I am finding it very frustrating and sometimes I wonder whether I will be successful at all. Has anyone out there been feeling they way I do or been very disappointed with the system and the length of time it takes?
July 2, 2019 14:37
Cornburygirl16 just wanted to check in and see if you were a match.
I agree the waiting is so hard - especially when you know that a little one is waiting for you too.
July 2, 2019 20:02
Matched and heading to panel end of July but won’t be doing intros until sept due to FC being on holiday with LO. Even though ally very positive I am wishing time away
July 2, 2019 20:50