This is a constant in our relationship with our adopted son. From the time he was placed at 4 years old to now at 11 years old. The frequency/nature of it hasn't really changed - but he is obviously getting much much stronger. We go through spells where it might happen daily and then spells where it is fine for up to 6-8 weeks or so. Inevitably there is a correlation with other stresses in his/our lives.
PAS have nothing further to offer - early conversations went along lines of 'he doesn't do it enough to warrant referral to CAMHS or similar", I've been on lots of courses, and we started therapeutic life story work (which they stopped as they didn't think it was helpful - another long story).
I'm not really sure what my question is, but parents of teenagers - how do/did you cope? Did you ever get any meaningful support that made a difference?
I can't see anything changing over the next few years, plus we will have hormones, secondary school etc adding to the mix - I don't want our family (or him) being subjected to this over the years ahead and his life chances suffering as a consequence.
It isn't okay and I don't want to live with it, but he is a brilliant, lovely boy in all other respects - he just cannot control the violence when dysregulated.
Any suggestions hugely appreciated.