Ah the teenage years!
Mine are now 17, 18 and 21 and they’ve all had their challenges at different ages. Tbh the younger two have been easier teens than tweens and primary aged. Those years were tough.
Eldest was, frankly, a nightmare from 15 through to 18 when he left for uni. On reflection I can understand that he was struggling to separate and grow appropriately. His blueprint for managing relationships was one at a time and one had to end before he could move to the next so in his mind he had to reject us before he could develop a relationship with friends/girlfriend etc. Previous experience was bm with no contact after a few days old and then foster care with no follow up - their choice - so that was how he proceeded. He was very, very angry and life was challenging for those years. I’m not sure I handled it as well as I could have - hindsight is a wonderful thing - but NVR training definitely helped. He has since been dx with anxiety and depression and tbh now he’s home again after graduating he still tends to be quite volatile. I do a lot of smiling, nodding, walking away and having a fair few deferred conversations via text initially.
We got through it and having done a psychology degree he has a better understanding of himself, of brain development, attachment, trauma etc though it can still be tricky at times.
What I learned from him I utilise with the other two. When I remember!
Covid really does take it out of you so be kind to yourself - I was completely wiped out the second time I had it.
And remember … this too shall pass. It’ll move onto something else but we’d hate for life to be dull 😉 😈!