As a single adopter nine years on, I still have neither the time, energy or inclination to worry about relationships.
I agree with everything Donatella and Safia said.
My social circle has expanded hugely since adopting, I’ve made some very close friends - adopters or people with children with additional needs, I’m not short of adult company if I want it. But as others have said, introducing new partners into the mix who might not actually be permanent, is another matter.
My son is nearly 17, I’ve been able to go out without sitters for a couple of years now. Before Covid I had just about resestablished my social life pre adoption - cinema, theatre, gigs pretty much when I wanted, but dating would still involve not so much sneaking around, but not being totally honest with him about where I was and who with.
I know lots of single adopters, I’m struggling to think of one who has started dating again.
Maybe it helps that I had been single for several years before adopting, and I’m now 56. Even when I was younger I never imagined dancing down the ailse in a white frock. Now I honestly can’t imagine sharing my space with a partner, at least not in any conventional way. Maybe I’ll meet someone in my 70s and we’ll have a geriatric romance!